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if it doesn’t work for you, drop it like it’s hot!

Spring is inherently a time when the light changes and the weather warms. If you pay attention, you may notice that your body relaxes just a bit more. Perhaps you breathe more deeply and fully.

Spring is also a time when people talk about “spring cleaning,” de-cluttering, cleaning their windows, cleaning out their closets, switching out clothing from winter to spring/summer, etc.

I want to challenge you to clean out your personal closet. That emotional space where things tend to become cluttered and dusty. That deep, dark part of ourselves where we store emotional luggage that we forget about but drag around with us. Luggage gets heavy. It’s time to unpack and let go. You can use the freed up energy to focus on something that works for you.

If you’re carrying anything around, or there is anything in your life that no longer works for you, drop it like it’s hot and be grateful for the renewed energy you will experience!


time to chuck the chucks

I had these sneakers for nearly 15 years. I was in love with them despite the urges from those around me who did all but beg me to get rid of them with promises that a new pair would offer me all that these had and more. Nope! This was true love. These sneakers made me happy. For me, the dirtier and more worn the better. They had holes in them and the soles were falling off and that gave them character. I was relentless. I tried to make them work in more than a million ways. Occasionally there would be a sign that they were unwearable, for example I was extra careful about putting them on so not to rip them further and never dared to tie the delicate laces too tightly. I was seriously committed to my denial.

The time finally came when it became irrefutably clear that these sneakers were no longer working for me. They had supported me (literally) through many times in my life, many changes and challenges that I had faced, and if they had a soul, they would have thousands of stories to tell. It was difficult to part with them (and truth be told, I held onto them for months even after I got a new pair) but I had to accept that they no longer worked for me and were actually hurting me. Hurting me because, being in absolute denial, I would wear them in the rain, forgetting that they had holes in them and my feet would get soaked. Or wear them when out for an entire day, forgetting that the soles were nearly gone and every step I took felt like my bare feet pounding the pavement.

I finally bought a new pair. Exactly the same (thank you Charles “Chuck” H. Taylor for your timelessness). Well, sort of. They were missing the paint and grit from many adventures and the holes that reminded me of the paths I took in life. Overall, my new sneakers lacked the character and history that took 15 years to create. But… they were still super cute, they fully supported me, I could wear them all day without my feet hurting, they were solid and could withstand the trials and tribulations yet to come. And as time happens, they have since accumulated their own character.

I love the story of my sneakers because it reminds me to consider what works in my life and what I am holding onto that no longer does. It reminds me to consider times when I put too much effort into making something work that actually doesn’t and to re-evaluate the usefulness or healthfulness of keeping that thing, habit, relationship, etc. Sometimes we have to let go, not because we no longer have a connection to or a history with something, but because it no longer works for us.

Maybe you have your own pair of sneakers? an article of clothing? a relationship? Is there something you are keeping around that no longer serves you well? What would it be like to accept that it is no longer good for you? What would you replace it with that would match what you are looking for in your present life? What is preventing you from letting go?


“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”

I just saw the film The Help and the line “You is kind. You is smart. You is important” resonated deeply. If you haven’t seen it or read the book, you should. If you have already, I wonder if you were moved as deeply as I was. Here’s the scene: Aibileen Clark is the hired help for a white Mississippi family in the 1960s. After watching the child she’s been caring for (Mae) being consistently mistreated by her mother, Aibileen begins a ritual with Mae. Each morning when Mae awakens, Aibileen sits with her on her lap, tenderly peers into her eyes and says both with and to Mae, “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” It is clear, by the film’s end, that May internalized this message and was able to hold onto the strength left behind by Aibileen. She knew that someone believed in her.

Watching this scene play itself out several times during the length of the film brought a warmth to my heart and tears to my eyes. I thought about how much each and every one of us, children and adults, would benefit from hearing this daily and from solidly believing this about ourselves. Words matter. Moments matter.

How many focused moments to you spend with your self, your children, your loved ones, sharing your appreciation of and adoration for them. Don’t take this for granted. Your words and those moments matter!


occupy your SELF

/self/
a person’s essential being that distinguishes them from others, esp. considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action.

the union of elements (as body, emotions, thoughts, and sensations) that constitute the individuality and identity of a person

the total, essential, or particular being of a person; the individual

Through the mere experience of life and living, it is a simple process to get far away from yourself. Disconnecting and paying more attention to that which lies externally than to what is within ourselves is all too commonplace an experience. Especially with the holidays in full swing, we tend to consider what will make others happy, different obligations that we have and the hustle bustle of the season.

When was the last time that you stopped to check in with yourself about what will make you happy, what you need and what your obligations are to yourself? When was the last full breath you took into your body to fully breathe into your whole self? What is your daily intention?

Take back that which is already yours. Occupy your SELF!


hello! i am enough.

I stepped into my friend’s car and this name tag was on his dashboard. “Wow,” I said. My next thought was that we should all keep these types of notes stored internally so that we can be grounded in “I am enough,” “I am just right,” etc. v the tyranny of the negative internal self that is ever-so-present in those struggling with eating disorders (and too many others).

What are your internal notes? Which do you want to keep? Which no longer serve you? Which are destructive? Today, make a conscious note. What is your note?


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intention – \in-ˈten(t)-shən\ – a determination to act in a certain way : resolve

American dancer and choreographer, Martha Graham, said that “first we have to believe, and then we believe.”

Having conscious intention, determination and a belief in ourselves, allows us to align our personal value system with our actions. Why is that important? Because when our actions don’t match our values, we become dissatisfied and distressed.

Conscious intention also allows us to transform our lives into what we envision for ourselves.

Begin with your values. What do you value? Perhaps friends, family, authenticity, honesty, a well-balanced life, honoring your self, honoring your body, unconditional acceptance of your body, self-acceptance…

What actions match these values? Connecting with friends and family, being authentic, balancing work, play, sleep, food, etc., paying attention to your emotional and physical needs, doing away with judgment, showing unconditional positive regard towards your body and your self…

What is/are your intention(s)? To connect with people, to express your feelings, to be compassionate towards yourself… How often do you think about it?

What is your conscious intention today?


words that move me

For years I’ve had conversations with patients, colleagues, friends, family, students and acquaintances about what inspires them. What makes them stand up straighter, prouder and take up the space that they are entitled to in the world. There have been many answers ranging from music to admirable people to mantras to tokens, but always, people offered me a quote that they hold close to their heart. In the world of Facebook, I have seen lots of status updates in the form of a favorite inspirational quote. Below are some of the offerings, as well as some of my own personal favorites – I, too, find inspiration in the words of others. What’s your inspiration?

“If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything very innovative.” – Woody Allen

“If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” – Thomas Alva Edison

“Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted.” – Albert Einstein

“Within a singular plane of reality, picture the sense of completely open possibility. Nothing is determined; anything is possible.” – Daniel Siegel

“If you wanna fly, you gotta give up the sh*t that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison

“Nothing’s gonna change my world.” – Beatles, Across The Universe

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Ghandi

“Silence is so accurate.” – Mark Rothko

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the tradewinds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain

“We shall not cease from exploration. And the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. ” – T.S. Eliot, Four Quartets

“We only live once, but once is enough if we do it right.” – Gary Ryan Blair

“I exist as I am, that is enough.” – Walt Whitman

“Just as the caterpillar thought it was about to die, it turned into a butterfly.” – Proverb

“When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time.” – Maya Angelou

“Beneath the ups and downs of everyday life there is a profound state of balance.” – Pandit Rajmani Tigunait

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” – Mark Twain

“First we have to believe, and then we believe.” – Martha Graham

“Be curious, not judgmental.” – Walt Whitman

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” – Robert Frost

“It’s never too late to be what you might have been.” – George Eliot

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” – Neale Donald Walsch

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein

“We never touch someone so lightly that we do not leave a trace.” – Ruth Gossen

“You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.” – Joseph Campbell

“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

“Life looks best with a little patina.” – Jodi Rubin 🙂


tunes that move me

As human beings, we are all but hard-wired to respond to music. Studies reveal the incredible impact of music on the brain. Its effects are profound, deep and emotional. The results stretch from lowering blood pressure to enhancing the ability to learn to shifting ones state of consciousness.

Music moves my soul. Here are a few of my favorite positive & inspiring tunes that I hope will move yours…

Christina Aguilera: Beautiful 

P!nk: Fu*kin Perfect

India Arie: Video

Helen Reddy: I Am Woman

Sly & The Family Stone: Everyday People

Christina Aguilera: Soar

Irene Cara: What A Feeling

Fleetwood Mac: Don’t Stop

Beyoncé: Run The World (Girls)

Lady Gaga: Born This Way

Eminem: Not Afraid

Eddie Vedder: Rise

Tragically Hip: Ahead By A Century

Lee Ann Womack: I Hope You Dance

Shania Twain: Man! I Feel Like A Woman

Jennifer Lopez: Alive

Lady Gaga: Hair

Madonna: Shanti/Ashtangi

En Vogue: This Is Your Life http://www.vh1.com/artists/az/en_vogue/albums.jhtml?albumId=39052

Morcheeba: Be Yourself

What moves you? What awakens your mind? Your body? Your spirit? Share below (in “comments”)